being single
ps: i sent it forward to 2 friends who I think needs to read this the most...hahaha...i really believe in destiny...
Being Single
All your life, you had specific dreams about what your family life would be
like when you finally married. You were so intent on what you wanted, you
even made a list of qualities and characteristics you were looking or in a
spouse, in a home, in your job, in your children.
But time passed, and that person you were so intent on didn't come along.
All of your friends married, had children, had beautiful homes. And still
you were single. You prayed and prayed and prayed for that person to come
along, but nothing happened.
You had a good job. You served in your church. You spent daily time with the
Lord in prayer and studying the Word. You dedicated your life to serving God
in every way possible, but still nothing. So you decided to take matters
into your own hands, and you began an active search for a mate. And within a
short period, you met someone who almost fit the bill. Almost. Sure, there
were a few things missing, a few rusty spots in that person's character.
But, after all, no one is perfect. Of course, your friends and your pastor
tried to counsel you that you were making a poor choice and that you should
wait for the Lord to send the right person. But that couldn't be right. You
had waited for a long time.
Maybe your goals were too high. Maybe you'd been asking for the impossible.
Maybe this was the person God wanted for you so your character could grow
through dealing with his or her failings.
So you married. And your life went down hill from there.
Even though it often seems that God is slow to answer prayers, no matter
Whether it's about a mate, or a job, or our children, or our finances, or
anything else, we have to remember that God doesn't wear a watch. Nor does
He look at our human calendars. He sees with eternal eyes. He operates on an
eternal timetable, according to His plan and His schedule.
If God seems to be running late, don't get impatient and run ahead of him.
Wait for the Lord's timing in everything.
To the single folks out there, this is for you.
Single means you have the time to grow and be the person you want to be.
Single gives you space to grow. Sometimes, it is harder to grow when you are
too close to someone. Trees are planted far apart so they can spread their
branches and become strong as they mature.
Single means learning to live by yourself. However, that is no more
difficult than learning to live with somebody else.
Single means freedom. You are free to spend a week's vacation on the beach,
to take computer courses, to work late on an interesting project, to spend
the day in bed with a good book or simply with a person who has read one.
Single means learning not to need a man/woman to make your life meaningful
but learning to live with a man/woman because you want to be with him/her.
Single means that sometimes you will wonder why you will bite your lip and
feel wistful and wonder if marriage is better.
Ironically, yet quite happily, single is feeling good about being in control
of your life. It is liking and respecting who you are and why you are.
Single is realizing that being married is not necessarily better, it is
merely different.
Single means that there could be something wonderful around the corner and
you can take advantage of it.
Single means you are free to love again.
